Hypertrophic cardiomyopathy has
given me the hardest trials of my life thus far, hands down. It has forced me to do and live through many
things that I would never have chosen for myself, but in the process, it has blessed
me in so many ways.
It
has given me empathy for people who are truly suffering – whose lives are
falling apart at the seams. I’ve been
there; I’ve lived through it more than once; and it makes me want to show the
kind of love I needed at that time to others.
It
has given me new friends, as neighbors and family members have reached out and
shared love and compassion in countless ways.
It
has shown me that I am much stronger than I think I am. Because my husband is afflicted with this
disease as well, there have been times when I have had to pull the weight for
our family almost all on my own and be there for both, or either, of my
heart family. With
five small children, that is no easy task.
But I have been amazed at how the Lord has blessed me to be able to do
it.
It
has given me a new level of courage to face adversity head-on. I have watched the experiences of both my son
and my husband and just been amazed at their courage and perseverance. I always refer to J as my “tough
kid.” He has endured so much pain in his
short lifetime, and yet, he is so happy and resilient. He still loves doctors and associates them
with suckers, stickers, and stuffed animals.
I tried to explain his surgery to him in very basic terms the other
night, and he didn’t act at all afraid.
Instead, he was pumped up for the airplane ride! If he can be brave through all of this, then
so can I.
It
has given me a closer relationship with and deeper love for my immediate
family, and a stronger connection with my extended family. It has helped me to forget about all the
petty little things that might cause contention, and embrace the good in each
member of my family. It has helped me to
learn to embrace the good days and really soak them in, as they are often few
before a new storm rolls in. But even in
the midst of those storms, we have each other.
We have so much love, it hurts.
And I wouldn’t have it any other way.
And
finally, it has given me a closer relationship with and greater love and
appreciation for my Savior, Jesus Christ.
He has been there all through this rocky HCM journey – to lift me up; to
give me peace; to strengthen me beyond my own capacity; to teach me truth; to
help me love; to help me overcome; and even to send me some sweet miracles. Without His atonement, there would be no
positives about HCM, but because of Him, our family has gained some pretty
amazing things.